Kayotic

“I had to stop fixing broken men and start fixing myself” | w/Angel

Kaylee Gutierrez Episode 11

In this episode of Kayotic, I’m sitting down with my girl Angel and trust me… this one gets DEEP. We go all the way back to teenage chaos, fixer-upper boyfriends, DUI rock bottoms, and the relationships that shaped (and nearly broke) us. Angel opens up about choosing the wrong partners, ignoring red flags, losing herself in survival mode, and what it actually took to walk away from a marriage that wasn’t aligned anymore.

We unpack the raw, uncomfortable parts of dating toxic men, becoming a mom with someone you weren’t meant to build a life with, and the identity shift that hits you like a freight train after having a baby. Angel shares how motherhood forced her to choose stability, how divorce cracked her open, and how rebuilding her life led to the gym, healing, and eventually meeting a man who actually shows up.

If you’ve ever settled, loved someone’s potential instead of their reality, stayed too long, or felt like you had to rebuild from scratch… this episode is your reminder that choosing peace isn’t weakness, it’s power.

We cover:

  • Why teenage “bad boys” felt like destiny
  • Seven years in a situationship that was straight out of a trailer park
  • Being the other woman without realizing how deep it went
  • Marrying fast, missing red flags, and motherhood’s brutal clarity
  • Divorce, shame, therapy, and learning to stop fixing broken men
  • Rebuilding your identity through fitness, sobriety, and soul-searching
  • Dating after divorce + unhinged Hinge stories (Stroke Boy… we’re looking at you)
  • Meeting Trevor, letting love in again, and unlearning survival mode

This episode is for you if:
You’re healing from a toxic relationship, navigating co-parenting chaos, rebuilding after heartbreak, or rewriting your life as a woman and a mother who finally knows her worth.

📍 Episode Chapters & Timestamps

00:00 – Intro + “How did I end up here?”
 01:30 – Angel’s childhood + fixer-upper boy pattern
 03:45 – The 7-year toxic situationship & being the “other woman”
 06:00 – Rock bottom, getting fired, and the final explosive breakup
 08:15 – DUI, jail, and jumping into her next relationship
 10:30 – Fast engagement → marriage → pregnancy → separation
 12:45 – Red flags, financial chaos, and therapy saying “this won’t work”
 15:00 – Motherhood forcing clarity + choosing stability for her son
 17:30 – Co-parenting struggles, loss of control, and identity shifts
 19:45 – Leaving toxic relationships & what people don’t understand
 22:00 – Healing, learning self-worth, and advice to her younger self
 24:30 – Fitness, sobriety, and rediscovering herself after divorce
 26:00 – Dating again: roster era + the “Stroke Boy” saga
 28:30 – Meeting Trevor + the Hawaiian-shirt love bombing
 30:00 – Unlearning survival mode & letting in a healthy relationship